Thursday, September 10, 2009

Mad and Crying!

I am so so mad right now. You remember when Gabbi first started going to the daycare they allowed her to get a Vanilla Wafer and eat it. Well she began having diarrhea later that night until the next morning. I wasn't sure if it was connected or not and her milk allergy test came back ok. We still weren't sure though. Well we know for sure now. Something was wrong with that test or it just did not pick up on it. She can NOT have milk. I mean at all! She got sick out of the blue on the way home. She was smiling then puking on herself. Now she is tired and puking more. I called the daycare and they said absolutely she had nothing with milk. Then I got a call back. Ooops...they were wrong. She got a hold of another kids cheese its. CRAP! See her reaction is always the same. I thought it had to be milk. I cried on the phone with them. My baby is puking on herself, turning red on the way home because of this mistake! What if it were a peanut allergy? I am so mad. I am crying and upset. The director of the daycare called back and said she fired the girl who has been responsible for the incidents....but it doesn't make my baby better....or take away the night of puking she'll have and the diarrhea that is sure to follow or the stomach aches or the fact that I'll be up with her all night! :(


*EDIT to say I never really felt like the milk allergy was gone and recently I have learned it is pretty common for it to come up negative. I still hear that most people outgrow it by 3. I have NO doubt as her mom that this is milk. It was always milk and when eliminated from her diet she can eat anything else. I mean anything. It's the only thing that does this to her. I even had written a letter to the daycare about her allergy and how sick she gets. I told them on the forms....I told them in a separate letter. I told them again and again and I always felt they were not being diligent enough. Other kids strolling around wherever they wanted with cups of milk...one child was eating a donut walking around. I get that other kids have the right to eat but we all as parents know kids will put that down and another will pick it up. That could be fatal with a peanut allergy. I really think food and drink times need to always be designated times, not random when everyone is running around. Not at a daycare. I am still very upset and on the verge of tears. Gabbi fell asleep. I pray she does not throw up again.

12 comments:

Isabella said...

:(

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I can't imagine how upset I'd be if my daughter was in the same situation. You'd think that with all the precautions daycares have to take with allergies they would treat Gabbi's dairy issues more seriously.

I know that gluten intolerance testing can come up false negative if the child is tested at a young age...maybe it's the same thing with lactose intolerance?

Good luck.

Stephenie said...

I don't blame you for being upset. I would be too. It's not like you haven't advised them enough. I agree there should be designated eating times and places so that problems like this don't occur. I sure hope Gabbi feels better quickly and it isn't too terrible of a night for you.

MaryAnne said...

Oh, I'm so sorry - how frustrating!

Shinade aka Jackie said...

Sandi,
As I told you before I too have lived through this and I completely understand your anger.

You have every right to be very angry. If it were peanuts or shell fish they could have killed her.

There is no excuse at all. My heart goes out to both you and Gabbi. I have been where you are at.

Tammy had many many days and nights sick as a dog before we finally tracked down the milk allergy.

But, please know, even if she doesn't grow out of it, Tammy is 35 and still can't have dairy, there are a ton of products on the market now made with soy.

Gabbi won;t miss out on much even if she never grows out of the allergy. She has a lot of years to go yet.

In another decade or so I just imagine you will be able to get just about anything on the market even with a dairy allergy.

Sending both you and Gabbi great big hugs!! Bless her heart I know how very sick she must be.

Hugs,
Jackie:-)

Southern Sage said...

Dang girl. I hope your baby gets better quick!

Sherri @ Luv a Bargain said...

Oh Sandi, I'm so sorry:) How optimistic we all were that this was over for Gabbi. I would be so upset too.

Wanda said...

I'm so sorry to hear this happened to Gabbi again. It's horrible for anyone to be sick but even worse for a little one who can't tell you what they've eaten or drank. I can understand your being upset. I would be too.
I hope Gabbi sleeps thru the night and doesn't get sick anymore. Hopefully, the daycare will be more aware of what is going on too.
(((HUGS)))

FPIESmommy said...

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I would be furious, upset, scared, etc., etc. Based on Gabbi's reactions I wonder if she has a form of FPIES to milk? My daughter has the same reaction to milk - vomiting(skin test came back negative as well). I have a description of FPIES on my blog - reactions can vary in severity. It is a milk allergy, just a different kind. Just a thought.
Hugs.

Melissa said...

Oh no, that is awful. I hope she feels better soon. I for one know how awful daycare can be. I know you are in school right now, so you have to use it, but it isn't fun. Hang in there.

Vic said...

I can't believe that your daycare provider doesn't have designated times, or at least places for kids to eat. Regardless of whether they've fired the person supposedly responsible for this error, they should be taking more responsibility as a whole to make sure this sort of thing doesn't happen.
I hope Gabbi's feeling better soon and that this doesn't happen again.l

only for biz said...

hmmm.....its really strange....i mean...i don't know anybody in my contacts.....like frnds, family......having any kind of allergy....it's not that common here........but its quite common in other countries people have all kind of different allergies....

hope she gets rid of this ASAP......

\,,,/

Jes said...

ohh poor baby! sad to hear that! it's been a long since i visited your site...hope your baby gets well soon !