Saturday, January 2, 2010

What Do I Say?


Right now the only thing on my mind is my dad. I am missing him and don't really want to talk about much else. I do have school on my mind still. I have to get my transcripts sent off to the new college. I have to figure out how I am going to pay for it all. There is still a ton to do. The only thing I think of though is that my dad will never see me graduate.

I keep seeing his face. He hasn't been gone long enough for it to seem real. I was with him up until the night of the 27th....when he passed. The day before he died he only opened his eyes about halfway for seconds at a time. If he heard his name called, or if there was a loud noise. I whispered into his ear that he was the best dad ever. He kind of raised his brows in a shrug. Everyone in my family knows this shrug. I told him I was sorry I ever took him for granted. He went back to sleep. I know he heard me. His facial expressions showed me that he did.

Just a couple of weeks ago in the emergency room I talked to my dad a lot. He seemed a lot more awake and much more talkative than he had been. He did get confused a lot but he still understood and knew a lot at the same time. At one point he asked me to spin around in a circle. I had no idea why. I figured he was confused...but I did. I turned around for him. He just smiled and reached his hand out to me. I think he just wanted to look....and remember. Then my big sister Donna was standing on one side of his bed, me on the other. He smiled and lifted each hand. He put his hand on Donna's face and his other hand on mine. He looked from her face to mine....just touching and looking. I knew what he was doing but honestly, I just didn't want to think about it. He has thought from the beginning that he was dying. Not one of us were even thinking of it as a possibility.

These are just some thoughts. I will end how my dad would end any conversation.....whenever you left my parents house my dad would always say "God Bless ya Brother [sister]".


Sandi

9 comments:

Southern Sage said...

It will pass and get better I promise.

I know it sucks girl.

hugs.

maryanne said...

Our thoughts and prayers are with you...

Lynne said...

Your Dad is watching over you and he left this world loving you and knowing he was loved. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

kalibug said...

I am so very, very sorry. I am praying for you and your family.

Clueless said...

((((((Sandi))))))

bingkee said...

Condolences to you. I pray with your family.

Katherine (a.k.a. Katie) Corrigan said...

I am very sorry for your loss. I hope in time you will find comfort in fond memories. Hugs!

Rebecca said...

You were on my mind this morning. I'm praying for you. It's so hard to lose a parent, I know. Thought I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will not fear, for You are with me. Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

((hugs))

deejay said...

sad for the loss of your father...